Natalie, Student Wellbeing Champion, discusses relationship violence and the TALK programme available for students…
If you are in a violent relationship or a victim of domestic violence, or if you know someone in that situation, let me tell you about the support available to you from Cardiff University’s Student Support.
Relationship and Domestic Violence
- 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men will experience relationship abuse at some point in their lives
- On average, 2 women are murdered each week and 30 men per year
- Relationship and domestic violence has more repeat victims than any other crimes – on average there will have been 35 assaults before the victim calls the police
- The majority of people in an abusive relationship are within the age range of 16-24 year olds
Relationship violence occur when a person uses physical violence, threats, isolation, intimidation, emotional, sexual or economic abuse to control their partner.
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Imagine this scenario: John told his girlfriend he would not be home late, but ended up staying out with his friends all night. As a result, his girlfriend shouted and verbally abused him, including calling him names. She then apologised and everything was forgotten– back to the calm and honeymoon phase.
However, two weeks later, John missed the bus and came home in the evening later than he said he would. Since she used verbal abuse last time, the violence severity increases and this time she ends up slapping him. The cycle of reconciliation and calm phase continues.
If the violence (including threats) has happened more than once or twice, it is likely to happen again. In each cycle, the incident will probably become more severe and higher in frequency, so that eventually incidents occur almost every day (if not several times a day).
Power and Control Wheel
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The TALK Programme
The aim of the programme is to raise awareness on what relationship violence is. It is also committed to safeguarding, advocating, helping people recognise the signs, helping with safety plans and being there for someone who is experiencing an abusive relationship. The programme is independent of Cardiff University, but works across the different universities in Vale of Glamorgan. The service is confidential, as it focuses on helping victims to understand why abusive relationships occur as well as giving tips and advice on what to do and how to cope with it.
Who is it for?
If you think that you could benefit from getting relationship help, advice or just having someone to listen to you, please get in touch. No problem is too big or small. There is a way to help you and your relationship. Change can happen and we are all capable of being who we want to be in our relationships. Help is available for victims, abusers or a worried friend.
How can I get in touch?
You have the options of talking to a counsellor at Cardiff University Counselling, Health & Wellbeing centre (50 Park Place) who can refer you to the programme, or alternatively, you could directly contact the TALK programme:
Contacting Counselling Health and Wellbeing
If you are struggling to improve your wellbeing, please know Cardiff University Support Services are here for you – there is no problem too big or too small and we would be happy to provide you with some support. We offer a range of flexible support options including:
- Counselling and Wellbeing Appointments
- Face to Face, Online or Telephone
- Wellbeing Walk-in: Drop-in Service running Monday to Friday
- Wellbeing Workshops
- Therapeutic Groups
- Wellbeing Champion Support
- Self-help resources
Bookable appointments are available via our online referral questionnaire. We also offer a Wellbeing Walk-In Service, Monday to Friday, 3pm to 3.45pm and Wednesday mornings, 9.30am to 10.15am, at the Student Support Centre at 50 Park Place. We also hold a walk-in service at our Student Support Centre in Cardigan House at the Heath, on Wednesday afternoons 3pm to 3.45pm.
Watch our video and see for yourself that we have friendly and approachable staff. Staff who are able to listen to you non-judgmentally, in a safe and confidential space.
If talking to a member of staff is something you are not sure about, why not chat to one of our Student Wellbeing Champions. They are trained student volunteers who can signpost you to support, offer you a peer ear and give you basic health and wellbeing advice. If you would like to see our Champions in action, check out their video.
If you are worried that you are experiencing physical symptoms that may be affecting your health, we strongly advise you to make a GP appointment to discuss this. If you do not already have a GP, please contact NHS Wales on 0845 46 47 or check out their website to view all of your GP options. The University also has its own GP Practice – Park Place Surgery for those in their catchment area.
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Natalie, Student Wellbeing Champion.
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