{"id":15262,"date":"2023-01-18T12:12:37","date_gmt":"2023-01-18T12:12:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.cardiff.ac.uk\/insiders\/?p=15262"},"modified":"2023-01-18T12:12:37","modified_gmt":"2023-01-18T12:12:37","slug":"5-tips-if-you-are-struggling-with-the-new-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.cardiff.ac.uk\/insiders\/5-tips-if-you-are-struggling-with-the-new-year\/","title":{"rendered":"5 tips if you are struggling with the new year"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">More often than not, the new year is seen as an amazing time to reflect on the past year and create new goals for the year to come. But while the new year can be a celebration for most, sometimes it can be scary. Looking back at the resolutions you didn\u2019t complete can be defeating. Seeing that you aren\u2019t where you hoped to have been by this time may be upsetting and even cause anxiety. For me, these emotions come in waves when the new year comes about. This year I have accomplished so much and had fun doing it.\u00a0 I managed to:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Complete my last musical in high school<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Welcome my new niece into the world<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Learn to love reading again<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Get accepted into an amazing journalism program\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Graduate high school<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Spend the summer enjoying both the company of family and friends while learning to love my own company<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Work a job outside my comfort zone<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Make it through my first term attending university across the ocean <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Though I made it through the lows and enjoyed the highs, I still get hung up on the things I didn\u2019t do:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Didn\u2019t learn guitar like I had hoped<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Didn\u2019t make all the friends I had hoped in my first term of school<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Didn\u2019t work as much as I could\u2019ve this summer<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Didn\u2019t stick to the workout I set at the start of the year<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">I believe it is important to talk about how New Years can be a time that we get hung up on what we didn\u2019t do. You may want to look at what you didn\u2019t do and try to figure out why. Was there not enough time? Were you too scared like I was? Did you give up too easily? These questions can also create anxiety when simply sometimes goals are just that, goals. They are something we aim for. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone\" style=\"margin: 8px 8px 0px;background-color: #f5f2f0\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.cardiff.ac.uk\/insiders\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/523\/2023\/01\/hillary-black-k5B_zHF5Prg-unsplash-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"421\" height=\"421\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Now, I\u2019m not saying we shouldn\u2019t reflect on this past year with a little critique in ourselves. But instead of getting hung up on what we didn\u2019t do, also look at what you did accomplish. The little wins that were a part of your year. The things that you didn\u2019t expect but happened anyway. Life can\u2019t always be focuse<\/span>d on the resolutions that may or may not be achievable. Look at the year as a whole.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Now let me give you some quick tips if you are struggling with the thoughts that come with the end of the year:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Surround yourself with the people that matter most. New Years is a celebration of making it through another year of life. Celebrate that with people you genuinely care about.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">If you want to reflect on the year, make a list of both the things you achieved and the things that you maybe didn\u2019t get to. But also reflect on the memories you made, what you learned, and what you want to continue to strive for. Remember, the journey is just as important as the end goal.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Make or grab some good food to end the year on a strong note. Take a book and read at a coffee shop or blast your favourite music while you cook. Just let yourself be human.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Dress up in what makes you feel good. I love to get all dolled up and go out with friends to take end of year photos. These photos can simply be to add to your memories or show you that you got this, this is your life, don\u2019t let anyone else mess with it.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The most important tip: do what works for you. If resolutions are your thing, great, make them. But if they aren\u2019t, don\u2019t get hung up on what society has deemed as a fresh start. It\u2019s never too late to create goals or start something new and a new year doesn\u2019t need to be the time to create the shift. Anytime of year is the time to better yourself.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<figure id=\"post-15290 media-15290\" class=\"image align-none\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.cardiff.ac.uk\/insiders\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/523\/2023\/01\/max-van-den-oetelaar-buymYm3RQ3U-unsplash-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"288\" height=\"192\" \/><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let the new year act as a stressful time, but if you are struggling with the new year, know that you are not alone. Use the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cardiff.ac.uk\/study\/student-life\/student-support\/student-connect\">student connect page<\/a>\u00a0to talk to students or staff who can help. Just because it&#8217;s a new year doesn&#8217;t mean there has to be a completely new you. Be easy on yourself and ring in the new year feeling good about where you&#8217;re at. Happy New Year, I hope it&#8217;s a great one.<\/p>\n<p>Lilly &lt;3<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"&nbsp; More often than not, the new year is seen as an amazing time to reflect on the past year and create new goals for the year to come. 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